So what kind of emotions do these pictures invoke?
Is anyone looking at these and thinking…..
Gosh how cute, I bet they really like each other….
No, if you’re a normal person it brings feelings of fear and outrage.
Now, I tend to use the word “normal” loosely. I think there is a wide range where normal can fall under,
beating people to exert control and torturing animals both do not fall under the “normal” range. There are reasons that people have to take psychological tests in order to get certain jobs.
Psychopaths are not conducive to a safe and healthy work environment.
Guess what? Same goes for relationships.
Wait, you don’t know a psychopath? Are you sure???
According to ScientificAmerican.com (http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=what-psychopath-means) a psychopath has specific personality traits: “Superficially charming, psychopaths tend to make a good first impression on others and often strike observers as remarkably normal. Yet they are self-centered, dishonest and undependable, and at times they engage in irresponsible behavior for no apparent reason other than the sheer fun of it. Largely devoid of guilt, empathy and love, they have casual and callous interpersonal and romantic relationships. Psychopaths routinely offer excuses for their reckless and often outrageous actions, placing blame on others instead. They rarely learn from their mistakes or benefit from negative feedback, and they have difficulty inhibiting their impulses.”
Now do you think you may know someone who falls under this definition?
How about a list of common characteristics? (http://www.crisiscounseling.com/articles/psychopath.htm)
“In reality, a person with a psychopathic personality can lead what appears to be an ordinary life. They can have jobs, get married and they can break the law like anyone else. But their jobs and marriages usually don’t last and their life is usually on the verge of personal chaos.
A psychopath is usually a subtle manipulator. They do this by playing to the emotions of others.”
Shouldn’t we be warning young girls, who grow into young women, that the above is not what should be tolerated in a relationship, much less desired?
I am NOT labeling anyone a psychopath, I am just trying to point out that people need to be more discerning about people’s behavior. There is a reason the saying “Actions speak louder than words” is flitting about, because paying lip service and saying they respect you is one thing, to actually do this every day is much much harder work.
I wanted to have this conversation with Lela, here’s how it went.
Ladies, Ladies WTF is wrong with you?
Monday morning after that Grammys I thought I would wake myself up with my usual routine, check FB on my phone, get outta bed, go potty, brush my teeth etc. etc.
Well this Monday an article on FB caught my eye and woke me right up.
what the fuck
As I went through one by one and read each idiotic comment, my heart sank at first.
How can these women be so STUPID? Chris Brown can beat me any day? REALLY? Getting your ass beat by a man is nothing to wish for. When you say stupid shit like this you are slapping the face of the thousands women who have to suffer through this bullshit, not to mention the ones who have LOST THEIR LIVES. Did you know:
- Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten.
- Everyday in the US, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends.
- Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women—more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.
- Men who as children witnessed their parents’ domestic violence were twice as likely to abuse their own wives than sons of nonviolent parents.
Why am I so offended by this you might ask? Why do I care? I care because I lived through this. I care because I am a woman, and I care because I am the mother of a young daughter.
It’s not what was said that is so upsetting. What upsets me is that it is/was taken SO LIGHTLY. To me most people have completely forgotten what he did to Rhianna, and I’ve even seen some disgusting posts were people were telling Chris Brown to be careful because Rhianna was trying to talk him. REALLY? REALLY? Here are some samples from those very comments, taken without permission so I’m not using names…
– Now I do not like getting into people’s lives and let them learn life on their own, but Chris Brown , ” Don’t Do It!!!” Stay away from Rihanna bro, she is the flame to your dynamite. RUN!!! RUN!!! and get your mind out the gutter about the Dynamite. Haha!!
– Come on Chris Brown…think with the head on your shoulders…not the well you know…. 🙂
– I hear you…. STAY AWAY CHRIS, she is BAD NEWS!!!!
Can someone please, PLEASE break it down for me how she is the one that is bad news? Is it because she will press that button that will make him go off? I dunno I
(I had to put it down. It was making me to angry and it wasnt making sense. I suck at this blog stuff.)
You can stop there is you want, I can pick up from here
You don’t suck
This is exactly what we need to throw out there
You know what, good idea. Pick up from here.
Well this goes back to what this smart lady was saying:
(If the link above doesn’t work, google “you didn’t thank me for punching you in the face” from viewsfromthecouch.com)
If girls are raised to believe from a young age that a guy is hitting you because he likes you… at what age do you think it stops?? Is this going back to girls who believe that any attention is at least attention? So if the guy ignores them, this equals bad but if he hits them… then.. yea! he LOVES me… what kind of sense does this make?
Look, I can tell you from watching it happen, it doesn’t start out all loves and kisses and then punches. It seems to start out with small comments like, “Well, I know you want to go out with your friends, but why don’t we spend a night together instead?” …. you know, 35 weekends in a row until you never see your friends. “Well…. maybe you could lose just a little weight,” until you feel like you are not attractive enough for someone else to want. It seems to start out with small things… just a comment, then maybe into a few comments… maybe about your clothings… maybe about who is calling all the time…. eventually you don’t feel smart enough or pretty enough and maybe, just maybe this is the best you can do? The physical side of it always seems to come later when how dare you raise your voice? you’re out of line, irrational, over reacting….
But in the end, it is nothing to joke about.
It is certainly not anyway to raise your daughters and whether they are seven years old or twenty seven or even fifty seven, these boys and men are bullies plain and simple and no one deserves to be treated this way. Especially when there is a world of decent men out there!
Women, women, women, remember, you would not buy a broken ipod, you would not spend the money on broken shoes… why do you want a broken boyfriend???? It is not your job to “fix” them. And they certainly can’t be changed this way.
Also, who cares if the victim forgives them? That’s not the point. We as a society shouldn’t say… well the girl who got beat forgave him…so who are we to get mad? People, sometimes, I feel are quick to forgive the wrongs done to themselves.. but now imagine this happening to someone you love, maybe your mother, your sister, your daughter.
Now for the girls that think that Chris Brown is hot shit because he won a Grammy. BFD. This doesn’t make him better than any other person, it just means he can sing and has a good producer. He says he’s changed, PROVE IT, and stop whining. It’s how people in real life how to deal with things when they’ve screwed up and people have lost trust in them. You have to earn trust back, you don’t get it back automatically just because you said you were sorry. There is no time limit on how long people will not trust you and the longer you throw temper tantrums about how unfair it all is, the longer people hold it against you.
And people should take the time to read the police report of exactly what he did. This wasn’t one punch. Go ahead, the link is below, horrifying stuff.
And guess what? Even Robert Pattinson agrees:
“Girls often say that Edward’s ‘sooo perfect,’ but he’s not. I do not like people who try to exert control in a relationship, when there is an imbalance. This is very wrong and very strange.”